You may expect people to be mature and dates to be cool, but, compared to high school, college is just about the same – the path of trial and error, and what’s more important, learning about who you are and your perfect match daily. Unfortunately, you can’t tell unless you commit some time to a relationship. We suggest leaving your essays behind for a while and inspecting most common mistakes you can make when seeing someone special.
- Bring people from your past life to college. This is a huge fail, especially if you want to meet someone new and burn the bridges behind. Old flames get in the way by making numerous calls and generally treating you like you are still together. Do not let your former self affect who you are now and say good-bye to people you broke up with, once and for all.
- Spend their energy on fruitless encounters. Yes, college is cool in the way we bid our farewells to the school life and start living a mature lifestyle. However, you should not waste your time on romantic adventures, even if that’s what your peers do daily. There is so much more in the world than simply dating and breaking up, and relationships bring emotional stress to your college routine that is absolutely unnecessary. Learn how to filter negative emotions and don’t allow public opinion to alter your beliefs.
- Taking after somebody instead of being yourself. Of course, we’ve all heard stories how couples meet in college and how relationships were sealed while your relatives stayed in Harvard, but your parents would be more proud of you graduating with a diploma than with a bunch of dangerous liaisons in your dating history.
- Seeing someone just for the sake of it. There is the golden rule of being in college: learn how to be alone. You are always surrounded by your roomies, friends and other students, and eventually start thinking it would be kind of cool to have someone to call when it’s midnight. But then, you should not forget this is not serious dating: you are simply filling the gap inside you. Settling for someone is not an option. You will be bored in the long run.
- Meeting people at parties. When you are out with your friends, unwinding after a long college day, it’s easy to find a good person. However, parties are not the best place to seek your future love. Individuals, hanging out in these places, may be the most romantic people in the world, but you cannot tell by the looks alone.
- Finding love in a math class. The recipe is simple: pass your test, date later. If you still have a lot of material to study on, do not waste your energy on someone you have just met. After all, they will always be there for you, even when the semester is over, and you can have a great night out after you take that test. Romance and study do not go together very well, and you have to set your priorities straight. Cute people aren’t the number one reason we attend the calculus class.
- Abandoning their lives once dating. This is the worst possible thing that can happen to a couple – living like the two of you are on an isolated island. You may not notice it in the first place, but the lack of attention towards other people will eventually begin to show. You all had your lives and social circles before you met, so keep on doing that, and maintain the same routine without putting everyone else on hold.
- Treating your breakup like a disaster. College days are the days of drama, and arguments seem like the end of the world. We’d like to say you are a lot stronger than you think, and if something is rotten in the state of Denmark, you have to pluck up the courage and speak to your significant other.